For many people, shower sex is one of those things that turn you on when you fantasize about it and leaves you cold when you try it. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Instead of trying to recreate something you saw in porn, find what works for you, your partner, and the very real size of your shower instead.
Let go of the expectation of what shower sex should be and enjoy what it can be with just a few tips. You and your partner will steam things up in no time.
Keep It Simple
We’re not suggesting you lower your expectations or standards, but keeping your shower sex simple goes a long way to having a better time. Let it be soaped up foreplay for what you do in the bedroom later. Enjoy some shower-soaked oral sex on your knees. Bend your partner over and penetrate them vaginally or anally in whatever way they love best. Play with sex toys or the shower head to find out how often you can get each other off. All of these things are great options for shower sex.
What you’ll want to avoid is the sexual acrobatics of trying to do everything at once. Remember, you’re in the shower with running water. Once things get a bit slippery (no pun intended), it’s hard to maintain your balance. The more complicated your moves are, the more chance you have of a major slip and fall which will definitely ruin the mood.
Grab the Lube
Shower sex is fun but there’s another hazard beyond slipping — drying up. It sounds strange, considering how much water is involved, but the body’s natural lubricants will get washed away. You’re going to need lubricant to keep the friction down and pleasure up. The lube you use depends on how you’re playing.
When possible, choose a silicone lubricant because it won’t wash away as easily. You may not need to re-apply it at all or very little. But if you’re using a sex toy that requires water-based lubricant, choose that instead. Just remember that you’ll have to add more lube once you get busy because it washes away just as easily as your own fluids do.
We keep mentioning slipping because it’s a real concern during shower sex. Before you grab your partner and drag them to the bathroom consider how you’ll both stay safe. You may want to take a bath together (if the tub is big enough) and stay off your feet. Maybe you can get each other warmed up in the shower but move to the bedroom for the real action.
But if down and dirty shower sex is what you’re going for, make sure you and your partner can easily brace yourself and stay in position. Add handles like the Sex in the Shower Locking Suction handles. You can get a dual set or a single option. It gives you or your partner a place to hold onto when things get wild and fast.
Bring the Right Sex Toys
Not all sex has to involve penis-in-vagina (PIV) sex. Sex toys are perfect for shower sex as long as you bring the right ones. Anything without a motor or set of batteries should be fine. Your dildo, anal plug, or manual prostate massager can be a great way to get off in the shower — alone or with a partner.
Before you bring your vibrator or any sex toy that buzzes, make sure it’s waterproof. Be careful with water-resistant products as they usually can’t be submerged in water. Some toys are fine if they get wet but won’t work as well once they’re underwater. Bring your sex toys with you, but choose wisely.
We tend to put a lot of pressure on ourselves when we have sex, especially if we do something new or adventurous. Hopefully, your shower sex experience is everything you want it to be and rivals porn for its hotness factor. But even if it doesn’t go according to plan, the important thing is to have fun with it.
If something doesn’t work properly, don’t stress out. Switch gears and do something else. If your body makes a funny sound, laugh it off instead of feeling embarrassed. When all else fails, get out of the shower and get busy on dry land instead.
Good shower sex is like any other kind of sex. Do what feels good and make sure your partner has a good time, too. Use whatever tools and enhancements you need and enjoy the moment. Beyond that, nothing else matters.