What is Rimming?

What is Rimming?

Even if you’re not familiar with rimming as a sexual activity, you’ve probably heard of it by another name — tossed salad, eating ass, anilingus. It goes by so many names, but basically, rimming is oral sex for the booty. You can do it with or without anal sex toys — ultimately, all you need is a clean butt and a willing tongue.

Curious about rimming? Here’s what you need to know.

Talk About It First

Talk About It FirstJust like there is no “Oops” in anal penetration, there’s no accidental rimming. Before you stick your tongue up your partner’s butt, make sure they’re okay with it. And if you’re desperate to receive some backdoor oral attention, talk about it with your partner. You might have to help them get over their ick factor, and it might be something you ease into. But the only way it’s okay is if everyone consents.

Clean It Up Back There!

Just like no one wants to go down on a swampy crotch, no one wants to go down on a stinky butt. At the bare minimum, wipe your butt with an antibacterial wipe or flushable wipe. Better yet, take a shower, clean your butt, and then wipe just before you get started. Toilet paper isn’t enough for this job, especially since the majority of people have hair on their anus. And stuff can get caught in there.

Do you need to do an enema or go through a big cleaning process like you might for anal penetration? Only if it makes you or your partner more comfortable or you think rimming might lead to something else.

Protect Yourself and Your Partner

Protect Yourself and Your PartnerDental dams are your friend in any kind of oral play, but especially rimming. Certain sexually transmitted infections (STIs) can be easily spread during anilingus, including herpes, as well as other bacterial infections through feces. A dental dam is a sheet of latex (or a non-latex alternative) that acts as a barrier between butt and tongue. Apply a bit of lube on the skin, place the dam over their butt, and start licking.

Anal Sex Toys or Not?

Not every sexual activity requires a sex toy, not even rimming. But if you’re already down with booty play, rimming might be icing on a kinky cake.

  • Lick the delicate skin of their butt around the base of an anal plug.
  • Move a dildo in and out during anal penetration while you tease their booty with your tongue.
  • Start with rimming and end with pegging — or switch back and forth!

Just like other forms of sexy fun, anal sex toys can enhance the moment. To look at it another way, when you’re playing with butt plugs and other toys for adults, rimming can make the moment even better.

Find a Good Position

Find a Good PositionThere is no single right position for rimming. It’s about whatever feels good to you. Doggy style is very common because it’s easier to open up back there. The lower your partner can bend over, the wider everything spreads. But that’s not always comfortable, so experiment with missionary, being on your knees, or in other positions. If your tongue can reach, and you’re both comfortable, it’s a good position.

How to Rim Your Partner

If butts are clean, consent is gained, and protection has been considered, now it’s time to actually lick the booty. So how do you do it? First, always listen to your partner and check in with, “Do you like this?” or “Should I keep going?” Second, don’t dive in like you’re in a race. This isn’t a competition for how quickly you can stick your tongue up their butt.

Start slow with long or short licks. If your partner is new to receiving, switch up techniques to find what they like. Pay attention to their body language and the noises they make (if they make any). Add flavored lube if that makes it more fun for you or your partner. Use your hands — on their butt and in other places you can reach. All sex, including rimming, is a full contact sport so don’t rely just on your tongue to do all the work.

Conclusion

Rimming isn’t for everyone, and some people will never get over their feeling of, “Ewww!” But it’s also more common than you might realize. Why? Because the anus is a sensitive part of the body and a lot of people like how it feels when it’s touched just right. If you’re curious about rimming — giving or receiving — talk to your partner about it. They might be curious too, and you never know until you start the conversation.

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