How to Choose Your First Dildo

How to Choose Your First Dildo

Like every other sex toy, choosing your first dildo is an extremely personal decision. What works for someone else might not be the best one for you. You have to think about how you want to play with your dildo, what feels good to you, and what you enjoy.

When you pick your first dildo, ask yourself these questions.

Where Is Your Dildo Going?

Where Is Your Dildo Going?We don’t mean where are you going on vacation and are you taking your dildo. This question refers directly to the part of your body you intend to penetrate with it. Are you using it for vaginal penetration or anal? There’s no right or wrong answer, but knowing this can help you decide on the style and size to buy.

Depending on your experience with anal penetration, you may want to begin with something small and thin, and you’ll definitely need lubricant. If you consider yourself a size queen, you may pick a long, thick dong. If you have no idea what you want, start with something average — approximately six inches long and not too thick.

Are You Playing Alone or With a Partner?

Are You Playing Alone or With a Partner?The good thing is that you can buy as many dildos as you want, so if you’re unsure or you want to leave your options open, consider what you need for both types of play. If you’re playing alone, you might want to look for a suction cup mount dildo. This lets you stick it on nearly any flat surface and penetrate yourself in different positions. You can also indulge in some blowjob fantasies with it, too.

If you’re playing with partner, think of how you’ll play. Will they penetrate you with it? If they hold it in their hand, it doesn’t matter what kind of dildo you get. But if they want to wear it while they penetrate you, you’ll want to look for a dildo that’s compatible with strapon harnesses. And then you may need to go shopping for the harness.

What Material Do You Want to Use?

What Material Do You Want to Use?Material is often the biggest source of confusion when buying a sex toy. Trying to choose what’s right for you can be difficult. Here’s what you do need to know:

Rubber, jelly, and TPR/TPE are the least expensive and often feel the most realistic looking dildos. However, they can’t be fully sterilized so if you share your dildo, you may need to use a condom. You also need to store them separately in a cool, dark place. You can clean these dildos with soap and water.

Silicone dildos sometimes cost a little bit more, but you can completely sterilize them in boiling water or in the dishwasher. You can also wash them with soap and water, and they can be stored with other sex toys. When you take care of them, they last a long time.

Glass and metal dildos are popular because they’re very body safe. They can be completely sterilized between uses, and they’re great for temperature play. Warm them up or cool them down for different sensations during penetration. Glass dildos are often made to look more like works of art than dildos, too.

What Appeals to You?

What Appeals to You?Once you decide on size, base, and material, the ultimate decision is about what you like. Which dildo appeals to you? Are there certain colors you prefer? Dildos come in a variety of colors, not just peach and dark brown for flesh tones or purple and pink for the “fun” colors. Many companies experiment with designs, colors, and patterns when they make a dildo.

You can also choose based on the sensation you want to feel. Do you want lots of texture and ridges? Does something smooth and soft appeal to you? If you don’t like how a dildo feels in your hand, you may not like how it feels in other parts of your body.

Will You Need Lube?

The answer to this question is that you almost always need lube. The type of lube depends on the dildo you choose. Rubber, jelly, TPE/TPR, and some silicone dildos required water-based lubricant. These lubes wear off after a while so you typically need to re-apply them as you play. Metal, glass, plastic, and some silicone dildos use silicone lube. This is a thicker lube that lasts longer but can sometimes stain the sheets, so be careful.

Conclusion

It doesn’t matter if you’re buying your first dildo or your hundredth. You need something that feels good in your hand and in your body. The cheapest dildo or the brightest colors might not be right for you. Take a little time and look through all your options. You may find that one dildo isn’t enough to satisfy you, and that’s okay, too. More dildos for everyone!

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