Why Dildo Size Matters

Why Dildo Size Matters

Plenty of people say size doesn’t matter when discussing penises, but that’s not something you hear when shopping for dildos. Size matters.

With regards to penises, size matters to some people, usually those on the far ends of each spectrum, big or small. But relationships are formed with people, not penises. You can be smaller than average and have a great sex life, find your soulmate, or both. On the other end, people with large cocks sometimes complain sex isn’t comfortable for them or their partner. And no, it’s not as rare as you think.

But in terms of a dildo, a sex toy you’re paying cold, hard cash for, buying the right size is important. Get one too big or small, and no one has a good time.

When Your Dildo is Too Big

When Your Dildo is Too BigContrary to popular belief, not everyone wants to shove a ten inch cock into their body. And some people who want to, can’t. Why? Because being too big can cause serious discomfort to a person with a vulva especially once you pound the cervix. The vagina is designed to expand to large proportions but not without lots of time and some pain. Why do you think childbirth hurts so much? And if you want to coax a vagina into taking something big, you’re going to need patience and lots of lube.

Too big isn’t just for vulvas, though. Ever tried anal sex with a dildo that just wouldn’t fit? Technically, anal play isn’t supposed to hurt but it usually does because people move too fast and play with too big of a sex toy before they’re ready. The rectum is fairly delicate and can be injured more easily than you think. Until you’re a seasoned anal player, start small.

When Your Dildo is Too Small

When Your Dildo is Too Small“Too small” isn’t always the most accurate term. Some dildos can be too short which means they may miss the all-important g-spot that some people with vaginas crave. Other dildos might be long enough but too thin. Not enough girth denies a person who wants to feel “full” the part of penetration they like best.

If you’re not sure what the right size is for you, stick with an average size dildo. Most bodies can accommodate the average penis with no problem so a dildo in the same size is a good starting point. And what’s average? About six inches really is the average size for most penises and dildos.

When You Crave Huge Dildos

When You Crave Huge DildosFor some people, the bigger a dildo, the better. They might be size queens or people who love edgier play. It’s possible they like feeling full and stretched to their limits. For people who get off on more advanced penetration, giant dildos can be perfect for fisting or finding out just how much they can shove into their bodies.

In kink, large dildos are used in a variety of ways, especially in humiliation play. Some people want to force themselves (or their partners) to gag while deep throating. Other people play with torturing their partner by comparing their cock to a giant dildo. Partners with vulvas might be called “slut” or “whore” for taking a big dildo. This level of kinky play with dildos isn’t for everyone, and it should only be tried after you’ve established a healthy bond with your partner and have full consent.

When You Need Something Smaller

When You Need Something SmallerBelieve it or not, sometimes you really do need a smaller dildo. We mentioned anal sex earlier, but it’s worth repeating. Start small! Look for shorter and thinner dildos. If you’re trying prostate play, look for a sex toy with a curved or bent tip if you only want to tap your p-spot. A long, thin dildo — regardless of length — can be perfect for anal play if you’re starting out.

When else might a smaller dildo be preferable? Anyone with a vagina who experiences discomfort during penetration with large toys or penises may benefit from a smaller dildo. As well as anyone wanting to try something like double penetration, whether you’re attempting two dildos in your vagina or one in your vagina and one in your anus. If you’re new to this kind of play, a small dildo (and plenty of lube) will likely work better than one of the gigantic dildos.

Conclusion

Yes, to the observant person, dildos do seem to come in bigger sizes. It’s not just because some people want a bigger dong to play with. The size of your dildo helps determine the type of sexy fun you’ll have and how good it will feel. Not everyone goes after the ten inch cock, and some people really do need and enjoy smaller, more slender dildos. Dildo size matters but not always in the way you might think.

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