Magazine, Author: Violet Fawkes

Violet Fawkes is a freelance writer, erotic artist and sole author of Love, Violet, a sex, body, and kink positive blog focusing on BDSM and relationships. When not writing, Violet can be found consuming unholy amounts of coffee, flouncing about in lingerie, and testing and reviewing sex toys.

Coming Together, Apart: Making Long Distance Love and Virtual Sex Happen

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Coming Together, Apart: Making Long Distance Love and Virtual Sex Happen

We are closing in on the one year mark of a global pandemic. A situation that has wreaked havoc in so many ways and caused incalculable damage and loss. For those who do not live with their partner, locally or long-distance, these have been a lonely, touchless 12 months, and there is no clear future […]

From Lacy to Racy: Buying Valentine’s Lingerie

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From Lacy to Racy: Buying Valentine’s Lingerie

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, a day of gifts and gestures in the name of romantic love. For many it’s a stressful holiday known for unmet expectations, disappointment and unnecessary costs. But with most of the world still in one degree of COVID-19 lockdown or another, it’s safe to say that Valentine’s Day […]

New Year, New Sex Toys

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New Year, New Sex Toys

We did it! We survived the dumpster fire that was 2020! For a lot of people the past year put the world into perspective in big ways and small. It made us more aware of what’s important, but it also gave us time to examine our priorities around much smaller things too. Like what and […]

Seasonal Affective Disorder and Your Libido

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Seasonal Affective Disorder and Your Libido

We’ve all been there. The days get shorter and darker. The weather changes for the worse, and so does our overall sense of wellbeing. For many, the change of seasons can signal a downturn in mood, but for around five percent of the population, especially those living far from the equator, up to 40 percent […]

Hygge but For Sex

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Hygge but For Sex

Have you heard of hygge (pronounced “hyoo-guh” in English)? It is a Danish and Norwegian term for a seasonal winter mood of coziness and comfort. In northern climes, like Scandinavia, the winters are long and dark, but they are also home to some of the healthiest and happiest people in the world! Hygge is all […]

5 Horror Films to Get You Feeling Sexy and Spooky This Halloween

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5 Horror Films to Get You Feeling Sexy and Spooky This Halloween

Spooky Season has officially arrived and what better way to get yourself in the mood, than with some scary and sexy movies? The horror genre is rife with tropes that lean into sex alongside fear, and there’s a good reason. Fear and arousal occur in the same areas of the brain and therefore are inextricably […]

It’s All a Matter of (Sex Toy) Size

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It’s All a Matter of (Sex Toy) Size

There comes a point for a lot of folks when they open their sex toy drawer and feel completely underwhelmed. I know I certainly have. Just like anything else, the toys you use on the regular can become boring and less stimulating over time. In part, your body becomes accustomed to the shapes and sizes, […]

How to Talk to Your Partner About Male Chastity

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How to Talk to Your Partner About Male Chastity

When we think of “chastity” we often think of women. More specifically medieval maidens in castle towers wearing underwear-like armor kept like animals by barbaric husbands. When we think of male chastity, the mental image gets a bit foggier. It’s not a topic that commonly surfaces in popular culture. During the Victorian era of England, […]

Naughty In Nature: Your Summer Guide to Sex Outside

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Naughty In Nature: Your Summer Guide to Sex Outside

By now I think we are all well and truly feeling the pandemic “cabin fever” from self-isolation and quarantine. For many, this has meant not being able to connect with and be intimate with existing partners. For others, it means that dating and hooking ups have been off the table. As the restrictions loosen and […]

Do These 6 Things to Improve Your Sexual Confidence

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Do These 6 Things to Improve Your Sexual Confidence

Sexual confidence is a slippery thing; it can be hard to establish and even harder to hold onto. Culture and media put high expectations on people to be sexy, (but not too sexy!). We are often led to believe that our intrinsic human value is rooted in our sexuality, our sexual experience, and our sexual […]

5 Ways to Beat Performance Anxiety for Masturbation

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5 Ways to Beat Performance Anxiety for Masturbation

Touching yourself can be a wonderful gateway to understanding your sexual pleasure and your body. It’s also an excellent teaching tool for helping your partner(s) understand your needs and wants. Masturbating alone can be a great stress reliever, but many people find masturbating with a partner rather stressful. Adding a second person to the equation […]

7 Ways to Make Your Relationship More Sex and Body Positive

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7 Ways to Make Your Relationship More Sex and Body Positive

If you’re in a relationship, hopefully, you already communicate effectively. But have you considered whether or not you have a sex and body-positive relationship? These terms are relatively new and they may not be a part of your sex and relationship vocabulary yet. If not, let’s look at it more closely. What does it mean […]