4 Expert-Approved Tips to Make Masturbation Exciting Again
Bored with your masturbation routine? Want to get yourself off but finding it easier (and more interesting) to scroll mindlessly through your phone or watch all the previews on Netflix? It might be time to upgrade your masturbation routine. Yes, even if you already have a go-to sex toy, you can get bored with your solo sex habits.
Not sure what to try next? We asked a few experts for their go-to tips.
Create a Ritual You Love
Life coach Dana Humphrey (https://www.linkedin.com/in/danakhumphrey/) suggests slowing down and sensualizing the experience. Turn it into a ritual you love and want to experience again and again.
“I like to start with coconut oil and rub it from the tips of my toes into a deep tissue leg massage. I then move into the inner thigh and really spend some time there caressing myself. Then I lubricate my finger and start to rub it around the lips of my vagina. After this massaging continues for awhile I introduce my vibrator. I might start with it turned off and then apply lube and turn it on, massaging the whole area and then moving inside. I love to think about something really juicy too.”
Orgasm in Different Ways
Sarrah Rose, a tantric sex expert, encourages you to explore your orgasm in new ways. These definitely aren’t your standard orgasmic experiences, but they may take your masturbatory experience to a new level.
“First, explore valley orgasms. As you turn yourself on, inhale up your spine to the top of your head and back down the front of your body and create a loop with your orgasmic energy so that it keeps going rather than just peaking and then crashing.
“Second, play with full-body orgasms. Instead of just building your arousal in your genitals, use your breath to move it up and let it spread throughout your body.
“And third, orgasm in your heart. Once you feel turned on, inhale that turn-on into your heart and as you exhale, expand that energy in your heart. Keep doing it over and over.”
Slow Down and Be Intentional
Pleasure coach Maria Hubmann offers two pieces of advice that you can do together or separately. Slow down your usual pace, instead of rubbing one out as fast as possible. Also, be intentional about the moment, and think about what you want to accomplish as you explore self pleasure.
“Slow down all your moves to 50 percent and notice how different the same touch can feel. Continue playing with speed: really slow to fast. This helps to keep you more present with your sensations and also helps with breaking habits.”
“At the beginning take a few deep breaths and set an intention, such as I want to surrender, I want to stay present with my sensations, or I want to play with pleasure. Create what you desire in your self-pleasure session.”
Add Outside Help
By “outside” help, we mean, of course, sex toys and lube! And it’s not just us saying it. Dr. Chris Norris, neurologist and founder of Sleep Standards, agrees!
“Sex toys can open up a whole new world when it comes to masturbation. There are hundreds of new toys released every year. Treat yourself to your first toy or a new one. There are also plenty of sex toy accessories that can enhance your masturbation routine. Look for nipple clamps, feather dusters, blindfolds, whips, and paddles, to spice up your solo time. Using lube doesn’t sound like the sexiest tip, but it can really transform your relationship with masturbation. It can make masturbation feel more luxurious, more special, and more pleasurable. Treat yourself to a high-quality bottle, and you’ll never look back!”
If your typical masturbation session involves a few quick rubs, thinking about the same sexy thing as always, and using the same sex toy in the same setting or in the same way, you’re not alone. It’s easy to get into a routine when you masturbate. But if you feel bored doing the same old thing or your orgasms aren’t as powerful as they used to be, it’s time to switch things up a bit. Something as simple as adding lube or thinking about your pleasure in a different way can make a big difference. Try one (or all!) of these tips to see if your solo sex experience is more exciting and fun.